Saturday, January 3, 2015
Favorite music to blog to
What is your favorite music to blog to? I feel like there is certain music that inspires our souls. Currently, I am listening to Fleetwood Mac's pandora station. Love me some Stevie! Tell me your favorites!!
Let's talk Orphan Black (spoilers)
I really love this show. They had me hooked whenever Beth threw herself in front of the train. I had no idea what the show was about. I thought it was about an orphan train coming to America or something. I was so way off. I love that writers have gotten away from vampires lately and moved on to clones. I should have done some more research, I guess. It's so funny that super fans have now started clone clubs.
So far, the only thing I have a problem with is, death by disposal. How in the world could that have really happened? Ainsley could have just taken her scarf off. I would love to hear other fans thoughts so far. I love Tatian Mansley. She is a phenomenal actress. But Felix, is by far my favorite. I was very surprised that he was American and not extremely gay. I prefer him that way. My favorite line, "Now, fetch me something gay."
Okay so I just finished the second season. I loved it, but does anyone besides me wish that Paul was the male clone instead of that other dude?
Okay so I just finished the second season. I loved it, but does anyone besides me wish that Paul was the male clone instead of that other dude?
Let's talk chocolate
I am a chocolate feign, along with coffee and wine, and more recently, beer. What are some of your favorites? I've listed some of mine and please feel free to comment with any awesome recipes you make with Chocolate.
1. Hershey's cookies and cream candy bar.
2. Hershey's special dark. (I've heard it helps with menstrual cramps)
3. Russell Stover's chocolates
4.Godiva dark truffles
5. Lyndt balls (My hubby's favorite)
6. Milk chocolate with almonds
7. Milk chocolate with toffee
8. Whitman chocolates
9. Turtles
10. Milk chocolate covered bacon
11. White chocolate with candy cane pieces
12. Almond Joys
13. White Chocolate with nuts
Oh, I forgot Nutella! This Recipe looks like it would be amazing to try:
http://honestcooking.com/chocolate-chunk-hazelnut-loaf/?utm_source=Honest+Cooking+List&utm_campaign=79ced56974-Jan+5%3A+Recipe+for+Your+Monday+Dose+of+Chocolate&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_f4c620240a-79ced56974-688983257
1. Hershey's cookies and cream candy bar.
2. Hershey's special dark. (I've heard it helps with menstrual cramps)
3. Russell Stover's chocolates
4.Godiva dark truffles
5. Lyndt balls (My hubby's favorite)
6. Milk chocolate with almonds
7. Milk chocolate with toffee
8. Whitman chocolates
9. Turtles
10. Milk chocolate covered bacon
11. White chocolate with candy cane pieces
12. Almond Joys
13. White Chocolate with nuts
Oh, I forgot Nutella! This Recipe looks like it would be amazing to try:
http://honestcooking.com/chocolate-chunk-hazelnut-loaf/?utm_source=Honest+Cooking+List&utm_campaign=79ced56974-Jan+5%3A+Recipe+for+Your+Monday+Dose+of+Chocolate&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_f4c620240a-79ced56974-688983257
How to keep your marriage healthy for the new year ahead
I'm mainly talking to me, but perhaps what I've learned could help others as well. This is advice I've gathered and read about from different marriage blogs and columns.
1. Make time for alone time and date night.
Make sure when baby is napping, or get a babysitter in order to have enough bonding and alone time with your husband. Spend every moment you can get alone and love on him.
2. Set boundaries with your parents.
I personally don't have an issue of my parents dropping in, cleaning my house, micro-managing how I raise my child, because my parents live an hour and a half away from us and we hardly see them, but I do need to work on not complaining to my parents about my husband. Sometimes, I do that. I call them up to complain about him. It's almost like telling on him. Sometimes, I do it in front of his face, like he's in trouble. I know this is damaging to my marriage, and I need to stop it.
3. Do Not emasculate your husband to anyone!!
When I was single, I used to work with a bunch of married women, and all they ever did was talk smack about their husbands. Some of them hated their husbands so much, I was really afraid to ever get married after listening to some of their stories. I'll add that most of them are divorced now. It would really hurt my feelings, if I knew my husband was talking nastily about me to anyone, and I need to remember that the next I feel the need to trash him to my friends, co-workers, or friends. Not only that, but don't emasculate him to him. Don't belittle his profession, or his friends, or his hobbies. Build him up in every way possible. Tell him how proud you are of him. I hate it when my husband speaks to me like I'm a child. I want to strive to never talk to him in this manner. The fact of the matter is he is not doing things wrong. ( I want to also strive to stay away from the word, "wrong", but he just does things differently than me. We need to look it over, talk it over, and figure out the most efficient way to do it. When you continue to belittle people you drive them to have zero respect for you.
4. Fight the right way
There is a right way to fight? Apparently. My husband and I are both very blunt, so we tend to not have a problem with bottling things up until we explode, but I know a lot of non-confrontational people like this. Instead, we stand on the side of blowing up over little things, which is not exactly the correct approach either. We both become very scary people, and no one, especially not my baby, needs to see that. When fighting:
A. Do not fight in front of your children, if possible.
We need to set an example for our children. They need to know that it is not acceptable to fight in an exploding manner, or in front of other people.
B. Do not fight in public
First of all, it is very awkward and uncomfortable for the people who are witnessing this. This is embarrassing for the both of you. Let go of the issue until you are alone. This will be better, because it gives you some time to calm down and think it over anyway.
C.Don't be overly dramatic
Like I said, when I get extremely frustrated, I tend to blow up. Try to stay as even headed as possible. I have a bad attitude sometimes. I'm not going to lie. One day, my husband was trying to teach me the proper way to clean something, and I didn't want to do it or hear it, but when I changed my attitude, and decided to be humble and teachable, I realized that he was right, and doing it his way was less time consuming, and more efficient. Just because you are equals, doesn't mean you can't teach each other things.
D. Never bring up things from the past.
Those things already happened. They are done. Over. They are never going to help your current situation. Forgive, and try to forget. Let it go. Do not use it as current ammunition.
E. Don't try to hurt your partner intentionally because you are angry
It's easy to hit below the belt. Words hurt. They are not easily forgotten. You know what buttons to push to send your spouse over the edge. Throw those buttons out with the garbage.
F. Learn from each fight
Stop fighting for the sake of fighting. Take the opportunity to learn something about how to make each other happy. One time when my husband and I were fighting, I said, "You never listen to me!" He said, "Okay, I'm here. I'm listening. I love you. I care about your feelings." I told him my feelings on the matter. He told me his version of how it should be done and why he couldn't understand me. I told him, "Look, we are different people. We think differently." You can learn from your spouse. You can learn to see things from his/her perspective. Take the time to rebuild, rekindle, relate, love, and compromise. And please, for the love of everything, do not bash your spouse behind their back. That is the most hurtful thing you can do.
1. Make time for alone time and date night.
Make sure when baby is napping, or get a babysitter in order to have enough bonding and alone time with your husband. Spend every moment you can get alone and love on him.
2. Set boundaries with your parents.
I personally don't have an issue of my parents dropping in, cleaning my house, micro-managing how I raise my child, because my parents live an hour and a half away from us and we hardly see them, but I do need to work on not complaining to my parents about my husband. Sometimes, I do that. I call them up to complain about him. It's almost like telling on him. Sometimes, I do it in front of his face, like he's in trouble. I know this is damaging to my marriage, and I need to stop it.
3. Do Not emasculate your husband to anyone!!
When I was single, I used to work with a bunch of married women, and all they ever did was talk smack about their husbands. Some of them hated their husbands so much, I was really afraid to ever get married after listening to some of their stories. I'll add that most of them are divorced now. It would really hurt my feelings, if I knew my husband was talking nastily about me to anyone, and I need to remember that the next I feel the need to trash him to my friends, co-workers, or friends. Not only that, but don't emasculate him to him. Don't belittle his profession, or his friends, or his hobbies. Build him up in every way possible. Tell him how proud you are of him. I hate it when my husband speaks to me like I'm a child. I want to strive to never talk to him in this manner. The fact of the matter is he is not doing things wrong. ( I want to also strive to stay away from the word, "wrong", but he just does things differently than me. We need to look it over, talk it over, and figure out the most efficient way to do it. When you continue to belittle people you drive them to have zero respect for you.
4. Fight the right way
There is a right way to fight? Apparently. My husband and I are both very blunt, so we tend to not have a problem with bottling things up until we explode, but I know a lot of non-confrontational people like this. Instead, we stand on the side of blowing up over little things, which is not exactly the correct approach either. We both become very scary people, and no one, especially not my baby, needs to see that. When fighting:
A. Do not fight in front of your children, if possible.
We need to set an example for our children. They need to know that it is not acceptable to fight in an exploding manner, or in front of other people.
B. Do not fight in public
First of all, it is very awkward and uncomfortable for the people who are witnessing this. This is embarrassing for the both of you. Let go of the issue until you are alone. This will be better, because it gives you some time to calm down and think it over anyway.
C.Don't be overly dramatic
Like I said, when I get extremely frustrated, I tend to blow up. Try to stay as even headed as possible. I have a bad attitude sometimes. I'm not going to lie. One day, my husband was trying to teach me the proper way to clean something, and I didn't want to do it or hear it, but when I changed my attitude, and decided to be humble and teachable, I realized that he was right, and doing it his way was less time consuming, and more efficient. Just because you are equals, doesn't mean you can't teach each other things.
D. Never bring up things from the past.
Those things already happened. They are done. Over. They are never going to help your current situation. Forgive, and try to forget. Let it go. Do not use it as current ammunition.
E. Don't try to hurt your partner intentionally because you are angry
It's easy to hit below the belt. Words hurt. They are not easily forgotten. You know what buttons to push to send your spouse over the edge. Throw those buttons out with the garbage.
F. Learn from each fight
Stop fighting for the sake of fighting. Take the opportunity to learn something about how to make each other happy. One time when my husband and I were fighting, I said, "You never listen to me!" He said, "Okay, I'm here. I'm listening. I love you. I care about your feelings." I told him my feelings on the matter. He told me his version of how it should be done and why he couldn't understand me. I told him, "Look, we are different people. We think differently." You can learn from your spouse. You can learn to see things from his/her perspective. Take the time to rebuild, rekindle, relate, love, and compromise. And please, for the love of everything, do not bash your spouse behind their back. That is the most hurtful thing you can do.
What every child needs to hear as they grow up.
I want to say these things to my child daily.
I actually think I need to repeat these things to myself daily as well. I also feel like these are things I need to constantly think and say to my spouse. So basically, everyone needs to hear these things.I have a hard time forgiving myself sometimes of past mistakes. I want to say these things to my students, and help them to believe in themselves in the future. I hope they also inspire you today. Thanks for reading. :)
Anxiety about the future
Let's talk about anxiety. I have it. I have it about the future. I have it about what people think about me. I have it for my relationship with my husband. I have it for my son. Am I going to be a good enough mother? What if I get lazy, and start slacking, and not caring about his well-being? Things go wrong in my life when I start cutting corners and slacking off. Always! When I start to think I've got it made, Boom! It all crashes down. So yeah, I have anxiety. I've had panic attacks. I don't want to be like that, though. I want to be the easy going, spontaneous woman I think I was intended to be. Is that really realistic in today's innovative society though to remain happy. I would like to hear some solutions to how people cope with fear and anxiety.
Friday, January 2, 2015
Which carrier is best?- A Year of Rented Carrier Reviews for Baby Wearing International
Let me preface by saying that I love to save money. I think I get some sort of high from saving money. I considered buying my own carrier, and actually did get a bjorn, and still use it at times. So far, the Bjorn is my husband's absolute favorite. I wanted something with bigger straps, but didn't want to pay the money. I became a member of Baby Wearing International, through word of mouth from some moms I met at Baby yoga. The membership is $30 a year and they have a meeting every month with a lending library. I have selected a different buckle carrier, so far, each month, so one of the admin has asked me to write some reviews. Perhaps this will be helpful if you are looking to buy or borrow a carrier.
October 2014- The Ergo baby
I liked this buckle carrier a lot. Wilson seemed to like it as well. We went hiking with him in it, and walked a lot this whole month. He slept almost every time I put him in it. It is very comfortable to wear. My back did hurt a little after a couple of hours of wearing it. The material that it is made of what seems like it would last forever. I loved the roomy pocket in front for keys, wallet, phone, etc. My husband said he didn't want me to put my phone in there because of the radioactive waves. My husband said he didn't like this carrier either, because it didn't fit his body type well. He is long and lanky, but it fit my body type fine.
November 2014- The Tula
At first, especially, I thought that I liked this carrier way better than the Ergo. In hindsight, I think it may have been because it was cute, and mommas are willing to pay so much more for these carriers than any other ones. I think it's just for the prints. There is no way I would pay more than $100 for a carrier, but that's just me. My husband didn't mind this one as much as the Ergo, but Wilson absolutely hated it when Changhee wore him in it, because his torso is so long and Wilson wasn't able to see out the top of the carrier. He screamed almost every time Changhee tried to carry him in it, and would have none of it. He seemed content enough when I carried him it though. I'm not sure if my review of how my child acted is great, though, because he started hardcore teething when we started using this carrier.
December 2014- The Lillebaby
I like this carrier because he can face me or face the world, like the Bjorn, but it is much more comfortable. I did not like the fact that there wasn't a snap to hold the hood. The design on the front of this carrier I had was of birds, and was really cute, but no one was able to see the beautiful design, because the hood dangled in front of it the whole time. It felt somehow cheaper (Maybe it was the material?) than the carriers I previously used. All in all, it was fine, though. It got the job done, and Wilson would nap the whole time I was out shopping in it sometimes. (I need take a picture with this one.)
January 2014- The Boba
Review to come....
October 2014- The Ergo baby
I liked this buckle carrier a lot. Wilson seemed to like it as well. We went hiking with him in it, and walked a lot this whole month. He slept almost every time I put him in it. It is very comfortable to wear. My back did hurt a little after a couple of hours of wearing it. The material that it is made of what seems like it would last forever. I loved the roomy pocket in front for keys, wallet, phone, etc. My husband said he didn't want me to put my phone in there because of the radioactive waves. My husband said he didn't like this carrier either, because it didn't fit his body type well. He is long and lanky, but it fit my body type fine.
November 2014- The Tula
At first, especially, I thought that I liked this carrier way better than the Ergo. In hindsight, I think it may have been because it was cute, and mommas are willing to pay so much more for these carriers than any other ones. I think it's just for the prints. There is no way I would pay more than $100 for a carrier, but that's just me. My husband didn't mind this one as much as the Ergo, but Wilson absolutely hated it when Changhee wore him in it, because his torso is so long and Wilson wasn't able to see out the top of the carrier. He screamed almost every time Changhee tried to carry him in it, and would have none of it. He seemed content enough when I carried him it though. I'm not sure if my review of how my child acted is great, though, because he started hardcore teething when we started using this carrier.
December 2014- The Lillebaby
I like this carrier because he can face me or face the world, like the Bjorn, but it is much more comfortable. I did not like the fact that there wasn't a snap to hold the hood. The design on the front of this carrier I had was of birds, and was really cute, but no one was able to see the beautiful design, because the hood dangled in front of it the whole time. It felt somehow cheaper (Maybe it was the material?) than the carriers I previously used. All in all, it was fine, though. It got the job done, and Wilson would nap the whole time I was out shopping in it sometimes. (I need take a picture with this one.)
January 2014- The Boba
Review to come....
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